When The Child Has A Favorite Family Member
Mothers know that their children are surrounded by people who love them. But there is always someone who has a greater affinity with them. This is usually a family member who quickly becomes the child’s favorite. Today on “We are moms” we will talk about this affinity.
To date, there are various theories that help explain the process of human sympathy. In this phase, the most influencing are the cerebral, hormonal and psychological factors that perhaps we are far from understanding. But, first of all, it is a social phenomenon.
From an early age you have a favorite family member. This is because you feel a greater affinity, projection or representation with him. For this reason, as mothers, you need to know how to behave in front of this reality to get the best out of it.
This preference should not be limited to a father or a mother but to the people around them and the admiration that the little ones have towards this person.
Don’t worry if your child has a favorite family member
There are mothers who when they realize that their children are favoring a brother, an uncle or a grandfather are sorry. And with sincerity, this is not always looked upon favorably. Don’t be ashamed! It’s just the maternal protective instinct.
However, the reality is that there is nothing wrong with your child admiring and feeling a strong sympathy for another family member. In fact, it is counterproductive to demonstrate jealousy and distrust of a completely natural phenomenon.
Childhood is the stage where children define their personalities and values. In this process , parents and their teachings are fundamental but not the only ones that come into play. Family, school and society are inevitable social models.
In search of their own identity
The little ones in the house are like sponges that absorb everything they see. All this information they will use to build their own identity. In fact, a child’s personality is partly defined also by socialization.
In general , children admire a person because there is something attractive about their personality, empathy, responses and physical appearance. Soon this turns into a reflection of what they wish they were growing up.
It should be noted that this interaction is natural. The favorite family member will not necessarily be the same as the mother but what matters is that this figure is not a negative model. The only thing that must be avoided are the counter-values.
It is healthy to have a figure to follow
The bond between other relatives and the little one must be respected. It is not a question of prohibiting it but of enhancing it. Intervening as a prohibitive figure in these cases can be harmful to the child’s psyche, family, and mother-child relationship.
Remember that the favorite family member automatically turns into a role model, even when that is a big brother. Favoritism isn’t bad, especially when it’s around the house.
Furthermore, being able to rely on this figure that the child loves has benefits that you must consider.
Advantages of the favorite family member
The positive side that this model to follow is in the home is that the relationships and interactions that are generated are controllable and positive. Even if you don’t believe it, this type of bond creates a feeling of family belonging in children.
This affinity is ideal for communicating with your child. In the future, if there are conflicting situations, he himself can act as an intermediary between the parties: the ideal key to mitigate tensions.
All of this will be beneficial when your child is at a later stage in their growth. One of these is adolescence where you always need support from other family members.
The perfect strategy
If you see your child feeling inexplicably attracted to a relative, try to show acceptance for their decisions. Your child will feel smug and happy, in fact you are showing him confidence in choosing his relationships.
Having a favorite family member doesn’t mean you have to give your child what he wants. Talk to this person and explain the strong bond your child has with them. This will motivate her to approach constructively.
Every mother tends to believe that her children are like her. In reality they are independent beings and we must also think about their future. For this reason, strengthening their family ties will be very positive for them.
