Shared Trust: What Does It Consist Of?

In the face of a divorce, what dissolves is the marriage relationship of the couple. However, the role of father and mother lasts for life. Children must be able to enjoy the presence of both parents: consequently, shared custody is the most suitable formula, in case of separation.

One of the most difficult moments for a couple occurs when there is no longer any remedy for a crisis situation and the basis for divorce is laid. This is an even more unfair and difficult circumstance for children, who wish to see their parents united forever.

Considering the fact that they are not responsible for the situation, the decision must be faced with maturity, so as to make them suffer as little as possible. It is at this point that  shared custody is evaluated as the best choice.

By reading this article, you will learn everything about this legal agreement that will define the new type of family that will be formed.

What does shared custody consist of?

This is the legal agreement by which it is established that both parents will take care of all childcare to the same extent, even if they are no longer married. This involves sharing the child’s time, obligations and rights. In this document it is specified that the maintenance costs are the responsibility of both.

Normally, it is customary for the children to remain dependent on the mother at the time of separation, and a regime of visits from the father is established. However, this situation does not respond sufficiently to the needs of the child, because it  does not pay due attention to his need to spend more time with his father.

In shared custody, however, the child is allowed to spend the same amount of time with both the father and the mother. In this way, he does not miss either of them and the periods of cohabitation are established in agreement with each family. These can be periods of months, weeks, or alternating days between parents.

What are the requirements to be able to choose a shared trust?

Some experts say that shared custody causes less trauma in children because none of the parental figures disappear from their daily lives. Unfortunately, this solution cannot be applied in all cases, because  parents must remain on excellent terms.

Furthermore, they must live close together, unless the agreement stipulates that living with each of them will last for months. Then, neither must be an absent parent or, worse, abusive and abusive.

The law cannot foresee every possible circumstance. Even less, a judge cannot establish every detail of the life of the separating family. In theory, the child’s welfare needs to be agreed upon by the parents.

Another way of looking at this legal practice objectively is that shared custody does not begin with the signing of the divorce deed. It started when they both made the decision to become parents, when they decided to give birth to a living being and to jointly share the responsibility.

Hence,  the shared custody agreement shouldn’t be complicated, if they both agree on what should be best  for their children.

Advantages offered by shared trust

Not everything that comes after a divorce is necessarily bad. In fact, shared custody also entails a series of advantages:

• The right of the child to have continuous contact with both parents is respected, to the same extent.
• Satisfy the emotional need to have a father figure and a mother figure.
• The decision helps the relationship better than when the parents lived together.
• Avoid subjecting the child to the conflict of loyalty that involves choosing one of the two parents.
• The possible sense of guilt disappears in children.
• Improve communication between parents.
• It does not happen that the figure of one parent is dominant over that of the other.

• It results in a more open attitude, which makes children accept and understand separation.
• The removal of the father from the children is avoided.

Disadvantages offered by shared custody

Among the main disadvantages, we can mention:

• Having to adapt to living in two different houses.
• In every home, it is necessary to do what is necessary to have everything the child needs.
• Organize habits, which are difficult to maintain in case of separation.
• Take care to respect both the schedules and the habits of the child. This requires good communication between parents in order not to change schedules, which could cause emotional instability in the children.

You need to be dedicated to maintaining good communication with your ex partner despite all your grief over the breakup.

Just because the relationship didn’t work out doesn’t mean you can’t be great parents for your little ones. Shared custody will bring great benefits to everyone: in this way you will be able to face the situation much better.