Emotional Abandonment: Letter From A Little Girl To Her Father

Unfortunately, pain is a reality in our society. There are many families that fall apart for various reasons. One of the most heartbreaking is emotional abandonment.

Today we present a letter from a little girl to her father. As we read it, we will discover that, for children, emotional abandonment is even more difficult than physical abandonment.

Childhood emotional abandonment

For a child, the separation or divorce of the parents is a very difficult event to deal with. The child cannot understand why or simply does not want to accept it. It is difficult to put into words the intense feelings that parental separation can cause.

Childhood emotional neglect leads to identity crises and low self-esteem. These children have problems relating to others, develop insecurities and think they will never be appreciated enough by anyone.

Children believe they have done something wrong, because the parent has come to make the decision to leave.

Emotional neglect for children can be really painful. Below, you will discover a letter from a little girl to the father who abandoned her.

It is said that we do not know our own strength until such time as being strong is the only choice we have left. This little girl has decided to be strong and heal her wounds with this beautiful letter.

Letter from a little girl to her father

Dad, I want you to know that I think about you all the time.

Every day I wonder what would have happened if you hadn’t left. But I guess it’s better that way.

I discovered what my passion is: art. If you were with me, I would ask you to take me to see museums, photographic exhibitions and art galleries. But also plays, orchestral concerts and book presentations. I’m sure it would be wonderful.

Art has helped me discover many things, observe people and let my imagination fly. Today, the only thing I wish I could guess is what your smile will look like.

I wonder what your eyes look like when you’re sad, or how your forehead crinkles when you’re angry. I would take many pictures of you, because I finally have the camera that I have always wanted and that I have asked for so much.

Sometimes I dream of walking with you taking your arm and walking down the street while I leave my head on your shoulder. I’ve always wanted to know what I would feel if you told me: “How beautiful you are”. Unfortunately, you never could.

It doesn’t matter, dad. I understand that you are very busy.

You’re gone. Although I know it wasn’t my fault, and it wasn’t my mother’s fault either. I’ve always wanted to be strong like her, but I can’t, because, despite everything,  I miss you so much.

I still remember the day you left. I would have liked to know, in that moment, that I would never see you again, to be able to hug you stronger and tell you that I will always love you.

Dad, why didn’t you tell me the truth? If I had, all of this would be easier today.

I wish you had chosen us. I needed you. To listen every morning to your words of encouragement, your advice and, above all, that you clearly tell me that no man should treat me badly, to know how much I am worth. Today I am aware of all this, but it would have been easier for me to hear it from you.

I have tried in so many ways to fill that deep emptiness that I feel inside of me, even in ways that don’t make me feel proud of myself.

My romantic relationships have been disastrous, out of fear of being left behind. Sometimes, the thought that I would never get married even made me cry, and this made me very cowardly in love. The truth is, I wouldn’t like to suffer what Mom went through next to you.

What good are promises if we don’t keep them?

Mom and I are doing quite well, and I admire her very much. He is always next to me. He taught me that it doesn’t matter how difficult life can be: it’s always better to smile. She is a real woman.

When I see Mom, I have a hard time understanding why you left. Sometimes I think I was afraid of her, her strength and her will to move forward. Not feeling up to it, you fled. Even if it’s  not for me to judge.

I sincerely hope that you are to your spouse and your other children what you could not be to us: a faithful father and companion. I say goodbye with dry eyes, because  today tears are not necessary.

I know I said I always loved you, but today I am convinced that the only thing I really love is the idea of ​​what you could have been. I just have to thank you for giving me life, because it is the greatest gift you have given me. I really hope you are okay. I send you a hug and a goodbye kiss, wherever you are.

Today I am healed.