How To Create A Strong Relationship With Your Child
We all want to be good parents, raise happy, healthy, and well-behaved children. Living in a home where discipline is not necessary is the dream of every father and every mother. The key to doing this is to build a strong relationship with your children. It goes without saying that you love your children more than anything else, but that doesn’t mean they don’t need discipline or that you don’t need to strengthen your bond.
On many occasions, it is not enough to tell our children that we love them. We also need to demonstrate and act our love every day for them to truly feel it. When you do this and show your children how much you love them, they will need less discipline and you will be able to create a strong relationship .
Engage in love to create a strong relationship
Putting your love into action must be your top priority, but what exactly does this mean? It means paying attention to what is happening between you, seeing things from the point of view of your children, leaving aside your perception as an adult. Remember that your child continues to be that beautiful baby you welcomed into your arms with all your unconditional love and all your hopes.
You may believe that a tremendous amount of effort is required to be able to focus on another human being. But, when you are truly present in your child’s life and the love you feel is unconditional, it requires no further effort on your part. Indeed, your children will give you all the energy you need every day and make you feel more alive.
Be present, alongside your child
90% of people when on their deathbed say their biggest regret is not being closer to the people they really loved. Parents with older children say they wish they had spent more time with their children. It happens that, without realizing it, time passes as if it were flying and our children grow up at great speed.
To be present and put your love into action, you just need to pay attention to them. As with romantic love or friendships, your relationship with your child also needs positive attention to strengthen. When we refer to positive attention, we obviously refer to your love. Creating a strong relationship with your children requires attention and takes time.
All relationships need commitment
As we just said, all relationships need attention, but also commitment. Good bonds between parents and children are not created out of thin air, as neither does good marriages. The human species would have been extinct for a long time already if we did not have in our nature the ability to create strong relationships with other people.
Children love their parents in an authentic way, but it is the parents who must maintain this connection and this strong bond. This is why all parents in the world need to do an inner work to understand if we are really doing whatever it takes to make our children grow up emotionally healthy and with a strong bond with their parents.
Prioritize time with your children
You need to spend a significant amount of time building a strong relationship with your child. There is no switch that allows you to start spending quality time with him, you have to create it yourself, paying your full attention to what you do with your child at all times. Don’t expect to have a good relationship with your child if you spend all your time at work or with friends.
In addition, there are some factors that cannot be missing in your daily relationship if you want to create a strong relationship with your child: trust, mutual respect, daily interactions, good communication and, of course, positive discipline.
