I Love You My Little One, With All My Soul And Forever

I love you my little one, with all my soul and forever, because that’s how mothers love, with music, sentiment and poetry. I love you my little one, with the greatest love I’ve ever felt. This is how parents describe that sweet feeling that is permanently engraved in their hearts, in which the indelible trace of a family is formed.

We are sure that until the moment you became a mother you would never have imagined a love so complete, so pure and intense. A love that in certain moments, why not say it, brings you so many fears and infinite worries … Will I be doing it right? Will he need something and I don’t know? Will it hurt somewhere? Is she crying for some reason I don’t understand? 

Having fears is normal when you are raising a child, because it means that we are working hard every day to give him the best, to learn and to know the characteristics of our child who, as you already know, is not equal to anyone else. Your child is unique, perfect in his intelligence, exceptional in his eyes, in his touch and even in his way of breathing.

Likewise, something you no doubt already know is that thanks to this child you are experiencing a different love, which transcends everything you have ever felt up to that moment.

It is something deeper, more natural and reassuring. This is why in many cases it is customary to say that  the love of a child is engraved in the soul. Because it is a way of making us understand that no matter how long it will pass or how far away it will be, that child will always be perfect in your eyes, even when he is already wearing a suit and tie and is free, a person who forges his own path and his happiness.

Loving a child is a wonderful art that we would like to talk to you about today at We’re Moms .

I love you my little one, and I want to raise you with all the love possible

Until recently, a more regulated attitude was greatly valued. We are referring to that kind of daily attention in which to be careful that the baby eats at set times, that he sleeps often, that he grows as he should and that he goes through all the usual phases of his development one after the other: the word, the take off the diaper when necessary, the moment he starts crawling, the moment he learns to control his movements …

• Conversely, natural or attached growth does not give such an obsessive priority to these kinds of goals. What is hoped for is to create a solid emotional bond with the newborn, a healthy, meaningful and strong attachment in which love and closeness participate.
• Starting from this bond based on affection, we will let the child develop at his own pace, at his own pace. Without forcing the stages, without demanding from him things that he still cannot achieve.

• Loving a child in this case is making love the daily and essential food, in which  the proximity of the mother is fundamental and in which the presence of the father is also the reason for this early attachment.

I love you my little one, and for this I want to know and understand you

There are mothers and fathers who today, in this age when we have all kinds of information, means and resources at our fingertips, continue to make the same kind of mistake. That of wanting their children to be as they want.

• Educating in strict obedience, one based on a written script in which the needs of a child are neither seen nor understood, is a grave mistake.
• We must educate to respect, act as a guide every day, understand and commit ourselves to discovering every need of our children.

• Loving a child actually begins in the first weeks of life. It is then that we already begin to perceive his character, if he is a newborn with many needs, if he is calm, if he needs to be close to his parents or is one of those who are comfortable in the crib …

Little by little and day after day they will give us more clues, more gestures and will show us more behaviors in order to know them. The time will come when we will have to help them manage their emotions, understand their whims, calm their outbursts … All this is loving a child, a love that does not penalize, does not scream, does not educate with terror and taxation.

I love you my little one, and I want you to have the best memories

A happy childhood is the substrate for a maturity with more psychological resources to achieve satisfaction, success and a cheerful and happy life. Something as simple as promoting growth close to parents, affectionate and based on understanding, active listening, always offering safety and trust to the child, will ensure that they grow up feeling valued, with good self-esteem.

Also, we can’t forget another equally important aspect: making sure she has great memories of her childhood. To do this, we must be aware that what little ones need is our time, our daily company to create meaningful moments. Those moments that are never forgotten and leave an indelible mark on our heart.

As you can see, you are doing it well too, you love your child too. You love him in the right way and you help him day after day to have the life he deserves, the happiest …

Images courtesy of Pascal Campion